Born in Long Island, New York, have lived in New Jersey, Connecticut, Arizona, California, and Oklahoma. Lived three years in Italy and Germany while in USAF.(Air Police: K-9 section). Now live in Tulsa, Oklahoma. Married after whirlwind romance to same wife for over 30 years. Currently run my own real estate school in Oklahoma. Like to study foreign languages for a few months just to see how they work. Also like Latin and giving speeches. I’ve taught Philosophy, Advertising, Property Management, and many real estate subjects at the University, Community College, and Technical School level. Now writing non-fiction book on the Romance genre. I was trained to be a philosopher and history teacher but have worked mostly in advertising, marketing, and real estate.
The Philosophical Difference Between Direct & Indirect Vicarious Experiences…
And the difference this makes for Romance Writers.
While romance writers may not have considered the difference between direct and indirect vicarious experiences, they are well aware of the difference between ‘telling’ and ‘showing’.
When a writer ‘tells’ the reader that a character is angry, the reader may or may not feel that character’s anger. This 'angry' experience will depend on how strongly the reader vicariously identifies with the character. In any event, the angry ‘feeling’ will be felt indirectly, if at all, as the character’s anger.
When a writer ‘shows’ anger, the reader also feels the anger; however, in this case it is a direct vicarious experience. The story situation can actually make the reader angry. In an important sense, the anger is also the reader’s anger as well as the character’s. A direct vicarious experience is therefore far more powerful in affecting the reader than is an indirect one.
Sometimes the difference between direct and indirect vicarious experiences can lead to unexpected results. While there is little opportunity for confusion in telling the reader that a character is angry or ‘left the room angrily’ there can be a misunderstanding when the author is trying to 'show' that anger. For example, suppose a character leaves a meeting room, goes outside, sees a soccer ball and kicks it across the street into a park. One reader might experience this as anger while another reader may feel enthusiasm or joy. This example shows the immediate aspect of a direct vicarious experience. (It is immediate because the reader feels it directly and not through the character.)
Besides the difference between ‘showing’ and ‘telling’, there is also an important POV difference between direct and indirect vicarious experiences. This difference is most pronounced in love scenes. If the author uses a female POV during a love scene, then this will produce an indirect vicarious experience for the female reader. That is, the experience will be clearly the heroine’s and not the reader's. The reader is in effect being told how the heroine is reacting to the hero.
This same female POV, however, produces a direct vicarious experience for the male reader. He experiences directly what is happening to the heroine which he can assume he is causing. He has identified with the hero. The feeling is vicarious but it is directly vicarious because the reader is not being told what the hero is feeling. While this is very satisfying for the male reader, it amounts to 'telling' for the female reader. The female reader is being told what the heroine is feeling.
When the POV is the hero's the opposite occurs. The female reader can assume she is causing the erotic reactions in the hero. For the female then this is a direct vicarious experience and thus much more satisfying.
I believe that most romance writers, who are comfortable writing love scenes, do this intuitively. An author who does not like writing love scenes and who is not aware of this difference, may have considerable problems writing successful love scenes. I also believe that this difference explains why female eroticism is not popular with male readers and vice versa.
Traditionally, it’s thought that male eroticism is more direct, more mechanical, more likely to use four letter words and more likely to treat the female as an object for his enjoyment. Female eroticism is traditionally considered to be more gentle, more poetic, less direct, and more concerned with love than sensual satisfaction. These are traditional views because there is a lot of truth to them. However, even the new 'male-style' female eroticism (lots of four letter words and body parts mentioned) is not very popular with male readers. It is almost as if both female and male authors ‘don’t get it’ (when writing for the oposite sex) while in reality, they do 'get it' as far as writing what their target audiences will appreciate.
When writing for men, write from the heroine's POV and when writing for women, write from the hero's POV. And when writing for a mixed audience, head-hop, but do it with consummate skill.